Be Kind to Yourself - that's what I'm doing for 2018!

 

We had a lovely New Year’s ‘Eve get together this year with a group of old friends I’ve known for 20 years now. All the kids ran amok, delighted at the prospect of ringing in 2018, an excuse to stay up till midnight while we reminisced about our carefree twenties hitch-hiking around Europe (in the days before Ryan Air made it all so cheap), working odd jobs and getting into ridiculous scrapes. These days staying up until 4am is about as risqué as it gets for any of us! I asked around to see what sorts of resolutions people had for this coming year and these were some of the answers: ‘make more time for me’, ‘look after myself - mind, body and soul’, ‘grow more independence in the kids, find ways to encourage them to do more jobs and help out more’.

Nothing outrageous there, such simple resolutions, we are all in the same boat, looking for ways to mind ourselves in the tide of busy life. It left me wondering about the best ways I can look after myself; I’ve been doing my best to make time for yoga, meditation and for the most part, saying no when I need to.

And then there’s being kind to myself. For 2018 I’ve decided I’m going to be my own well wisher, my own best support. I’d like to stop comparing myself, judging myself and feeling I’d not doing enough. Be kind to myself and accept myself as I am - some days focused and driven, some days scattered and tired, some days cranky, some days funny. And then I was reminded of this poem, I came across it some years ago in a poetry workshop, printed on a coloured card and for ages I kept it in my handbag and read it again and again. I suppose the reason I love it is because it’s really saying, I say yes to myself and I feel relieved when I read it. I hope you get the same smile from it. I’ve decided to learn it by heart this year and say it to myself when I most need it, a bit of poetry medicine!

 

 God Says Yes To Me

 

I asked God if it was okay to be melodramatic

and she said yes

I asked her if was okay to be short

and she said it sure is

I asked her if I could wear nail polish

or not wear nail polish

and she said honey

she calls me that sometimes

she said you can do just exactly

what you want to

Thanks God I said

And it it even okay if I don’t paragraph

my letters

Sweetcakes God said

Who knows where she picked that up

what I’m telling you is

Yes Yes Yes

 

- Kaylin Haught

 Siobhán Daffy runs Natural Rhythms Homeopathy and holistic healing from Alethea centre, Parkwest Dublin 12. She sees a lot of children and families looking for a natural way to build health and resilience. She also runs courses for parents; Happy Healthy Children - the next one is February 24th, booking on Eventbrite. She is co-organising the Natural Family Health Conference in March 2018 - www.facebook.com/naturalconference